How to Deal with Grief

Bookstores and libraries have shelves filled with books about how to deal with grief. Some authors suggest one way while others encourage another route to dealing with grief. What is the best way or is there a perfect path to deal with grief?

First, we must acknowledge that each person grieves in their own way and in their own time. Perhaps a loved one has recently died and you are the person everyone is looking to for answers on how to proceed. Family and friends need to be notified of the death. Preparations for a funeral or memorial service have to be arranged, documents need signing, insurance companies need to be notified, and many more details wait to be sorted and possibly designated to another person.

While taking care of those important tasks, there may be a time when we put our own grief aside so everything will be done with precision and love. Yet, our own grieving process is vital to mental, physical, and spiritual health. Remembering that we are allowed to grieve helps to share our love for the person who has passed on and also, helps us to share the love of Christ with others.

“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” (Matthew 5:4 NIV).

Grief can rise to the surface of our emotions at any time. A simple memory can bring a flood of tears. At times, anger may come when least expected. Anger at losing a loved one and not being able to share time with them on this earth may cause us to question God’s timing and be fearful of the future. Those questions and fears are already known by God. He knows our hearts and every thought. When fear, anger, and sadness come, find rest in going to God in prayer.

Every person will experience some type of grief during their lifetime. Whether the grief is from the death of a loved one, the loss of a job and finances, the loss of a friendship, or some other reason grief is found, we can find comfort in God.

Ways to Deal with Grief

• Acknowledge grief is real and you are not alone.
• Go to God in prayer. Ask for His guidance. Thank God for His provisions.
• Remember grief may arise at any time. Minutes, hours, days, or years later, grief may come.
• Seek professional medical help when needed. Share your grief with clergy, trusted friends and family. There is no shame in asking for help.
• Share precious memories with others. Listen as they share their own memories, too.
• Remember you are loved by God. He is with you always. Find comfort in resting in His presence.
• Remember grief can sometimes be expressed through tears or anger. Ask God to guide you through each emotion.
• Ask for forgiveness if your words and actions due to grief have caused sadness to others.
• Find a quiet time to seek peace and calm during times of stress due to grief.
• Know that you are loved by God.

God knows our grief and sadness. God loves His children and will comfort each person.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18 NIV).

In His Name,

Melissa Henderson